Here is a video that allows us to see what a “Me Party” looks like. Watch and then we will talk.
There are many ways we can start having our own “Me Party.” For instance, we can have a “Me Party” due a fight with our husband, someone said something ugly to us, something happened at work that upset us or even our monthly visit or lack of it can do this to us.
I have to be honest when I am overworked, lonely, tired, or even stressed I might start my own party.
There are different types of “Me Parties.” For example: some parties may involve a shopping therapy, over eating, drugs, alcohol, a simply escape through movies, sleep, book, or a random destination.
Don’t get me wrong, there is needed rest and recreation we should certainly incorporate into our routines. However, when the “me time” turns into a “Me Party” with guests like: whinning, wallowing and doing things that don’t glorify God; we are wise to consider a few things before we proceed to invite these types of guests to our “Me Party.”
Some things we need to remember when we want to throw a “Me Party” for ourselves are these:
1. The party will come to an end. I always hate to have to clean up after a party. In fact, I rather have other people do it for me, yet, when it is my own private party, where the only guest was 1, I have to deal with the clean up afterwards all by myself. Sometimes it is messy. Perhaps if we are sincere and recognize what is moving us to throw this party, we would pray like David: “Turn to me and be gracious to me for I am lonely and afflicted.” (Psalms 25:16).
2. Others won’t attend if they are not invited. If people are not invited to the party they cannot say they will be there, most commonly known, they cannot RSVP. If we don’t extend people the invitation into our lives we may think they don’t care, but how would we know? It is true that some people can let us down, and sometimes they cannot carry the load of our problems. However, we would be suprised to see how God can use others in our lives to alleviate our condition with godly counsel and encouragement. A “Me Party” will always push people away. God’s Word tells us that our brothers and sisters are a way God can speak into our lives also: “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up.” (1 Thessalonnians 5:11a).
For those of us who tend to isolate ourselves from the world, listen to this wise counsel: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work” (Ecclesiastes 4:9). Let us also remember that God has set us in families, not only our immediate one but also our christian fellowship. He knows we need them: “God sets the lonely in families” (Psalm 68:6).
3. A “Me Party” is always attended by an invisible guest. Even though we can’t see Him, we know He is always there: “If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there” (Psalms 139:8). God has not left you, He is always around to comfort our heavy hearts and to provide the needed help at the proper time. Psalm 22:24 says it very clear: “For he has not ignored or belittled the suffering of the needy. He has not turned his back on them, but has listened to their cries for help.”
4. A “Me Party” is not as fun as a “He Party.” When our lives begin to focus on God and not on ourselves we will experience a different outcome in our situations. If we allow God to permiate every single area of our hearts that is driving us to throw a “Me Party,” we will experience the gifts that only His company can bring. I am sure that if you invite Him, He will say: “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door,I will come in and eat with him, and he with me” (Revelation 3:20).
Why not throw a “He Party” today and invite the most important guest of all. I am sure He will not dissapoint you. He will bring the best gifts you really need. He will even clean up the mess we have made. “Let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water” (Hebrews 10:22).
Time to share: When tempted to throw a “Me Party” what has worked for you instead? Take a moment to share with us and encourage someone else.
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